Confidence in Your Future Coaching


What You Believe: Part II

It's not enough to just want something to happen. Wanting something is much different than believing it is yours to have. 

In the book You Are a Badass, Jen Sincero explains this perfectly. "No matter what you want, if you've got an underlying subconscious belief that it's going to cause you pain or isn't available to you, you either A) Won't let yourself have it, or B) You will let yourself have it, but you'll be real fucked up about it. And then you'll go and lose it anyway" (Her words, obviously, which is why there's quotes around it.) 

This quote is such a great reminder for everyone who is wishing to make changes in their lives. You can't trick your mind! If you have a belief that "money is the root of all evil" but say that you are trying to make money you will run into problems around money. If you believe something like "I always mess everything up" and are trying to make progress in your life, you will find that even when you do make progress, you mess it up. It is wild how true this can be. 

The point of this is to say it is not enough to set an intention and just say the affirmations. Saying "my business is successful" but still believing "I always mess everything up" contradicts itself and since your mind believes what you tell it, you will still struggle. You really need to do the inner work to understand what you believe, uncover what you might be lying to yourself about, and figure out what is true for you. If you find that you have a belief that doesn't work for you anymore, choose to release it! Figuring out some of these blocks can be fun! Having that "Ah-ha!" moment when you are like "wait, why do I think that?" and allowing yourself to move on is so freeing! It can change your life. 

When you work on this, you might uncover some really weird beliefs that you wonder how you started believing them the first place because they don't make sense. That's totally normal! Don't feel bad about whatever you uncover, allow yourself to investigate these thoughts and don't judge yourself no matter what comes up. It might be hard to admit some of them and that is okay too.

After you figure some of your beliefs out and are ready to release them, try not to harp on where they came from. It doesn't matter how you absorbed them, that is the past. You are working to release thoughts and that should be your focus, not blaming where they came from. Allow yourself to forgive the past and where these thoughts originated from and then release them forever.

Do this at your own pace, it definitely takes time. Like many of these topics, the more you practice and the more success you find, the easier and more frequently you can do them.